I end up this thought process here so that you start reading it, hope after reading and understanding your life would be very happy as now you know why talks are necessary and how to deal with them when they come to you.
I do not see a better word to name this blog - TALKS. Not sure of what came to my mind of coming up with this new topic but seems to be an interesting one to debate on everyone has their own opinion and I would copyright this as my thought process and you accept it only when you feel it suits your thinking too...
The idea is not making someone understand how to communicate but to help deal it a better way...experience does teach everyone anyhow...
It is practically impossible to hurt any one if one really have a good understanding of life. People don't hurt by talking something rubbish but they show what a fool like them can do. Anyhow no offend but I sense this as a problem in people who do so by only targeting someone to hurt and show their own frustration.
Talks can also be termed as a phenomenon to convey a message and if necessary accepting a response. Response is a result of communication been done with a person. Talks can be realistic or unrealistic , it can also be sensitive or non-sensitive or it can be true from the bottom of the heart or false as if just trying to speak something which can make a person feel sad or happy.
Truly speaking I find this topic very interesting as I am putting my opinion about talks and I feel I might not be the correct person to judge this...
Still I would like to contribute my feelings when it comes to talk(communication) when we speak with some one trying to hide something we start to stammer a bit whereas when we are not lying or trying to tell the truth we tend to speak more fluently and without any fear ..isn't it? No matter what you are trying to talk whether it is in office or at home, in front of manager/coulleges or at home in front of your family members if it is coming from the bottom of your heart it penetrates in other persons heart or simply people listen and forget the same...
Some people just want to make someone feel good and hence they talk nicely and sweetly to make sure the other person starts to feel good about it. And some just want prove their ego as greater then anyone's feeling and try to hurt the other person inspire of their awareness that it is wrong...
Telling lie is also one kind of talk and can be habit to some one, lying doesn't mean that the person is trying to pretend that what he is saying is only correct , it might be that person who is lying doesn't wants to hurt the one loves the most. Some time it becomes necessary to lie ....should not be always....:)
Similar to lying some one , telling the exact truth might hurt someone unless it's a good news, hence sometimes it'd important to manipulate the truth, but make sure you are doing it for good.. I would like to portrait an example here from legendary Indian epic MAHABHARATA in which when it had became impossible to win against GURU Dronacharya in the war, youdhistra a person who never lied ever in his lifetime had to manipulate the truth by telling guru Dronacharya that ashwathama has passed away which was actually an elephant but guru Dronacharya got manipulated and thought it was his son named Ashwathama and since he knew youdhistra will never lie in any circumstances he stopped fighting and gave his life as now his son was not alive and he did not want to live anymore.
With all different ways of talks mentioned above it is also necessary how other person understands what one is trying to talk or explain, most of the time I have seen people misunderstanding the intensity of talks and tend to do mistake by misinterpreting the same. Hence to be able to communicate one should also be a good listener and after listening one should always thing and then speak.
I would suggest from my experiences do not get involved in unnecessary communication where there are possibility of misunderstanding and if getting involved make sure you limit the talk as much as possible.
With unwanted talks comes anger and ego to loose talk (debate unknowingly) and hence converting the talks to fight and as everyone knows after fight a broken heart cont communicate much then getting depressed and stressed.
I suggest be realistic in talks, manipulate when necessary and lie when there is no choice left with a promise to yourself of telling the truth very soon.
Happy talking....
I do not see a better word to name this blog - TALKS. Not sure of what came to my mind of coming up with this new topic but seems to be an interesting one to debate on everyone has their own opinion and I would copyright this as my thought process and you accept it only when you feel it suits your thinking too...
The idea is not making someone understand how to communicate but to help deal it a better way...experience does teach everyone anyhow...
It is practically impossible to hurt any one if one really have a good understanding of life. People don't hurt by talking something rubbish but they show what a fool like them can do. Anyhow no offend but I sense this as a problem in people who do so by only targeting someone to hurt and show their own frustration.
Talks can also be termed as a phenomenon to convey a message and if necessary accepting a response. Response is a result of communication been done with a person. Talks can be realistic or unrealistic , it can also be sensitive or non-sensitive or it can be true from the bottom of the heart or false as if just trying to speak something which can make a person feel sad or happy.
Truly speaking I find this topic very interesting as I am putting my opinion about talks and I feel I might not be the correct person to judge this...
Still I would like to contribute my feelings when it comes to talk(communication) when we speak with some one trying to hide something we start to stammer a bit whereas when we are not lying or trying to tell the truth we tend to speak more fluently and without any fear ..isn't it? No matter what you are trying to talk whether it is in office or at home, in front of manager/coulleges or at home in front of your family members if it is coming from the bottom of your heart it penetrates in other persons heart or simply people listen and forget the same...
Some people just want to make someone feel good and hence they talk nicely and sweetly to make sure the other person starts to feel good about it. And some just want prove their ego as greater then anyone's feeling and try to hurt the other person inspire of their awareness that it is wrong...
Telling lie is also one kind of talk and can be habit to some one, lying doesn't mean that the person is trying to pretend that what he is saying is only correct , it might be that person who is lying doesn't wants to hurt the one loves the most. Some time it becomes necessary to lie ....should not be always....:)
Similar to lying some one , telling the exact truth might hurt someone unless it's a good news, hence sometimes it'd important to manipulate the truth, but make sure you are doing it for good.. I would like to portrait an example here from legendary Indian epic MAHABHARATA in which when it had became impossible to win against GURU Dronacharya in the war, youdhistra a person who never lied ever in his lifetime had to manipulate the truth by telling guru Dronacharya that ashwathama has passed away which was actually an elephant but guru Dronacharya got manipulated and thought it was his son named Ashwathama and since he knew youdhistra will never lie in any circumstances he stopped fighting and gave his life as now his son was not alive and he did not want to live anymore.
With all different ways of talks mentioned above it is also necessary how other person understands what one is trying to talk or explain, most of the time I have seen people misunderstanding the intensity of talks and tend to do mistake by misinterpreting the same. Hence to be able to communicate one should also be a good listener and after listening one should always thing and then speak.
I would suggest from my experiences do not get involved in unnecessary communication where there are possibility of misunderstanding and if getting involved make sure you limit the talk as much as possible.
With unwanted talks comes anger and ego to loose talk (debate unknowingly) and hence converting the talks to fight and as everyone knows after fight a broken heart cont communicate much then getting depressed and stressed.
I suggest be realistic in talks, manipulate when necessary and lie when there is no choice left with a promise to yourself of telling the truth very soon.
Happy talking....
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