State of Mind ... Confused ...

I say it is a illusion of mind that creates confusion or A lack of clarity can be termed as confused. our minds keep working during day time but it is also not asleep during night hours.... 

Have you every thought how do you wake up suddenly at 4 AM in morning when you have to catch a flight on that particular day ...

But how do you get confused or i can say how is your mind confused , The answer may be simple but there has to be lot of planning involved to make it all correct .....

One of the examples would be at work or at home when you have multiple things to do and you are unable to prioritize any , you go in confused state  ...you dont know where to start with and what to start .....

Similarly when you dont have a plan you again tend to confuse your self ... To avoid this one might need to undergo the Triple 'R' Formula i.e.  talk with "Right People" and on "Right Time" to get the "Right Information "...... This will surely help decide and avoid leading to confusion ....

Misunderstanding can also be a state of mind and that person can be called as confused ......

Manyas journey to vaishnov devi

To begin with this blog i have only one thing to say and thats "miss you mandu"..

It has been a while, myself & manya had not bee apart and whensoever she has some plan with her mom to go on long vacation....this thought of manya going away from me shatters me big time. And some how i been very protective and caring i always fear if i am not along she might end up with trouble.

I am not saying that her mom or grandparents wont care or are less affectionate but some how i feel manya is more safe with me.

Anyhow i cant go along with them due to some office plan and between my mom is coming as well but i wish i could be along. Today manya's mom is not keeping well and i am not very comfortable sending her too but cannot express my feeling as for her its a family gathering and sometimes its important to be with own family alone, spend some time have some gossips, chit chat and spend some good time together. Hence i thought y to spoil her planned vacation if i cannot go along with her.

I actually love both of them and cannot see them in trouble with manya i can immediately express my feeling but somehow-in-spite of loving my wife so much i cant express myself. May be this will be fixed later or sooner.

Well my blessing is always with my daughter. Wish them a safe and happy journey. 

 

A surprise .....

Amazing isn't it... Word confidence brings so much inspiration within ourselfs to do anything successfully ....

Question is how do you be confident and inspired? How many of us know the secret of being confident and to gain this confidence...

Well answer is very tricky and it lies within ourselfs ....

Trick is tell yourself you can do anything and everything, fool your heart first. But does it gives you confidence! Not really...because your brain knows it is not possible to do... Hence a legal fight between your brain and heart starts...

So who is correct HEART or BRAIN?  How do you feel confident , should you listen to your heart or brain..... Well brain is more practical and tells you the truth about your capabilities...which can build or  loose your confidence, but heart encourages you with never give up spirit to fight till you wish too ....

Here when it comes to either of it, it s self belief which comes in picture...which acts as medicine to gain confidence . If you don't have a self belief no power in world can force you build the confidence you need to achieve the goal and when you are in full swing of self believe no power in world can stop you to archive that goal....

I have seen this happening to many people , inspite to lot of inspiration by family , friends and other near and dear ones , one is not willing to do that job due to lack of self belief ...

This conversation is debatable as everyone have their own set of argument on this but I believe all arguments and circumstances are just an excuse to not do that task...if you have self belief  at least you can give it try and if  it's a success you are self boosted to proceed and target for next goal and I case the trial fails do not worry it becomes an experience which might come useful in future for something else which you may achieve with this failed experience...

There is nothing to loose when you hav to give anything a try....but if you are successful you lot which can get....not only for you but you become examples for others to fight ....

Life is a small journey and in this one life you should do the maximum for yourself , for family and finally for society....that can be anything like weath , tours, helping the needy, donations , spreading love, or saving someone's life....doing this only thing you get is blessing and great feeling of bring smile on some ones face.....worth of million and billions of dollars.... Isn't it? Ask yourself.....

So give a promise to your self , you at least give it a try....

Become superior not great....

Well I don't understand why there is always some competition going on between every one , in family, at work , in politics or among children's too... Healthy completion leads to success in life whereas when competition becomes race to win then there is no way of getting back ...

This blog is about becoming SUPERIOR ( a Hindi translation would be "UTTAM") then being GREAT ( Hindi translation would be "SHERSTH" or "MAHAN").

You must be thinking two words with almost the same meaning , isn't it? This is not true ....I will explain you how....

When a person tries something he/she try to become nice , then they improvise their self to be good, then very good and finally reaching a level they like to be called GREAT...being great is not a problem but being great is always self centred , you do it for your self , you try to  make sure no one wins against you ....isn't it not true.. We all in today's world compete to become great and powerful...and to win every race...

I practically do not believe in being self centred or trying to become great by pulling someone capable down to prove my self, is it so tough to make yourself better without pulling some one deserving down to earth....

Tell me one thing how many of us think this way hardly 5% or less???

People who think this way are called superior people , as they are never in any race they do what they want to without harming others, rather they help others to grow along with them...they do good for society, people who are suffering for some or the other thing...

This not only gives others a fighting sprit but lesson to people to become superior and not great , teaching them that humanity is still alive .....

There is always a burden, A stress while people trying to become great hurt someone this can be unknowingly but fact is you were in competition and I have to prove the best among all, for this I can do anything.... If I get a medal for this will I really be happy by heart ...think about this....

On the contrary if people who are superior won't act on such events and will try to make sure there is a win win situation....

Well I would end this by saying there I pare lot of people in world who are not even happy , one of the  basic  necessities of life, and bringing smile on one of the faces would be the first step of proving yourself superior......

Talks

I end up this thought process here so that you start reading it, hope after reading and understanding your life would be very happy as now you know why talks are necessary and how to deal with them when they come to you.
I do not see a better word to name this blog - TALKS. Not sure of what came to my mind of coming up with this new topic but seems to be an interesting one to debate on everyone has their own opinion and I would copyright this as my thought process and you accept it only when you feel it suits your thinking too...
The idea is not making someone understand how to communicate but to help deal it a better way...experience does teach everyone anyhow...
It is practically impossible to hurt any one if one really have a good understanding of life. People don't hurt by talking something rubbish but they show what a fool like them can do. Anyhow no offend but I sense this as a problem in people who do so by only targeting someone to hurt and show their own frustration.
Talks can also be termed as a phenomenon to convey a message and if necessary accepting a response. Response is a result of communication been done with a person. Talks can be realistic or unrealistic , it can also be sensitive or non-sensitive or it can be true from the bottom of the heart or false as if just trying to speak something which can make a person feel sad or happy.
Truly speaking I find this topic very interesting as I am putting my opinion about talks and I feel I might not be the correct person to judge this...
Still I would like to contribute my feelings when it comes to talk(communication) when we speak with some one trying to hide something we start to stammer a bit whereas when we are not lying or trying to tell the truth we tend to speak more fluently and without any fear ..isn't it? No matter what you are trying to talk whether it is in office or at home, in front of manager/coulleges or at home in front of your family members if it is coming from the bottom of your heart it penetrates in other persons heart or simply people listen and forget the same...
Some people just want to make someone feel good and hence they talk nicely and sweetly to make sure the other person starts to feel good about it. And some just want prove their ego as greater then anyone's feeling and try to hurt the other person inspire of their awareness that it is wrong...
Telling lie is also one kind of talk and can be habit to some one, lying doesn't mean that the person is trying to pretend that what he is saying is only correct , it might be that person who is lying doesn't wants to hurt the one loves the most. Some time it becomes necessary to lie ....should not be always....:)
Similar to lying some one , telling the exact truth might hurt someone unless it's a good news, hence sometimes it'd important to manipulate the truth, but make sure you are doing it for good.. I would like to portrait an example here from legendary Indian epic MAHABHARATA in which when it had became impossible to win against GURU Dronacharya in the war, youdhistra a person who never lied ever in his lifetime had to manipulate the truth by telling guru Dronacharya that ashwathama has passed away which was actually an elephant but guru Dronacharya got manipulated and thought it was his son named Ashwathama and since he knew youdhistra will never lie in any circumstances he stopped fighting and gave his life as now his son was not alive and he did not want to live anymore.
With all different ways of talks mentioned above it is also necessary how other person understands what one is trying to talk or explain, most of the time I have seen people misunderstanding the intensity of talks and tend to do mistake by misinterpreting the same. Hence to be able to communicate one should also be a good listener and after listening one should always thing and then speak.
I would suggest from my experiences do not get involved in unnecessary communication where there are possibility of misunderstanding and if getting involved make sure you limit the talk as much as possible.
With unwanted talks comes anger and ego to loose talk (debate unknowingly) and hence converting the talks to fight and as everyone knows after fight a broken heart cont communicate much then getting depressed and stressed.
I suggest be realistic in talks, manipulate when necessary and lie when there is no choice left with a promise to yourself of telling the truth very soon.
Happy talking....

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